The Ninth Session blog tour – Oct 8

I was recently asked to write a blog post about Deborah Serani’s new book The Ninth session, I was also given the opportunity to interview Deborah and ask her some questions about her and the book, these can be seen at the end of this post.

About the Author

Deborah Seraniis an award-winning author and psychologist who has been in practice for thirty years. She is also a professor at Adelphi University and is a go-to media expert for psychological issues. Her interviews can be found in Newsday, Psychology Today, The Chicago Tribune, The New York Times, The Associated Press, and affiliate radio programs at CBS and NPR, among others. Dr. Serani has also been a technical advisor for the NBC television show, Law & Order: Special Victims Unit. The recurring character, Judge D. Serani, was named after her.

WEBSITE & SOCIAL LINKS

Website:  https://www.drdeborahserani.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/DeborahSerani    

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Dr-Deborah-Serani-227062310643715/

About the Book:

Title: THE NINTH SESSION: A PSYCHOLOGICAL SUSPENSE NOVEL
Author: Deborah Serani
Publisher: TouchPoint Press
Pages: 190
Genre: Psychological Suspense/Thriller

BOOK BLURB:

Dr. Alicia Reese, a recent widow and a CODA – a child of Deaf Adults, takes on a new patient. Lucas Ferro reveals the reason for his consultation is that he wasn’t really open with his previous therapist. After gaining Reese’s trust, he shares aspects of his life that are clearly disturbing – experiences that create anxiety and panic, but also reveal horrifying psychopathology. Instead of referring Ferro elsewhere, Reese chooses to continue working with him, feeling reinvigorated by the challenge of his case. 

As sessions progress, and Ferro’s disclosures become more menacing, Reese finds herself wedged between the cold hard frame of professional ethics and the integrity of personal truth – and learns just how far she’s willing to go, willing to risk and willing to lose to do the right thing. 

★★★★★ORDER YOUR COPY★★★★★

Amazon → https://tinyurl.com/y6qz2sto

Book Excerpt:

First Chapter

Session One

Monday, June 5

The light slowly filtered in from the other room as I opened the door. This was the last moment of the unknown, where two strangers meet and a life story begins. 

Most times, I’ve no idea which seat in the waiting room a new patient will choose. Sometimes, though, I can make a good guess from the initial phone call. Usually, the depressed patient, feeling weak with fatigue, sits in the first seat available, whereas the anxious person, eager to feel relief, selects the seat closest to the consultation room. 

Not that it really matters. There are only six chairs in my waiting room. 

 “Mr. Ferro?” I rolled my neck around the waiting room. Then checked my watch. Eight o’clock on the dot. Seeing no one, I pressed my lips together. Did I make the appointment for eight or eight fifteen?

I left the door ajar, walked to my desk, and re-checked my schedule. I slid my finger down the Monday, June 5th grid in my appointment book to the eight o’clock hour, and there was his name: Lucas Ferro. He’d be my last appointment of the night. 

Okay, it’s for eight o’clock. 

Maybe he’s running late.

While I waited, I reviewed my notes from my telephone conversation with Ferro. I opened the crisp manila file and heard a shuffling, then a sputtering hiss of air in the waiting room. I turned toward the sound, unsure of what it was. A magazine falling on the floor? The air conditioning shutting off? I listened for another moment or two and, hearing nothing more, went back to my desk. My office suite was a beautiful setting and one I didn’t mind spending so many hours in. The waiting room, a spacious rectangle, was lined with several Ficus trees and exotic plants, paintings from local artists, and burled wood furniture contemporary in design. The thickly upholstered leather chairs were caramel in color, and the teal-flecked carpet stretched from wall to wall. The vaulted ceiling housed three skylights, flooding the room with an abundance of natural light. My consultation office was just as large, and there was ample room for my desk, two chairs, and the proverbial psychoanalyst’s couch–and of course, an etched nameplate on the door: Alicia Reese, Ph.D. Psychologist. Across from the built-in bookcase was a long picture window overlooking Oyster Bay. At this time of night, the evening sunset gleamed across the water, layering the inlet with a silvery orange hue. I turned my attention back to the Ferro file, and I heard it again. 

Thumping movements. 

Hissing sounds of air

Then silence. 

“What is that?” I asked aloud with growing curiosity. 

I’d been working in this building fifteen years and knew all its creaks, thuds, and mechanical whirrs. But I couldn’t decipher these sounds. They weren’t familiar. 

I tapped my pocket, confirming the presence of my panic remote. In all the years I’d been in practice, I never found a need to use it. 

I got up from my desk and moved toward the door that led to the waiting room. An emerging sense of uneasiness took hold. I heard a hollow voice say something I couldn’t catch and then trail off. 

I jolted forward, took out the panic alarm, and held my thumb on the button, ready to send the signal. I entered the waiting room but saw no one. 

Again it happened. 

The bang of something hitting the ground. 

Then a rush of air. 

I focused my vision on the sounds, turning my gaze toward the far right corner of the reception room.

The darkened bathroom. 

I walked in willed steps toward the nearly closed door. Drawing in a deep breath, I opened it all the way with a poke of my index finger.

There, standing against the corner wall, was the shadow of Lucas Ferro having a panic attack. 

“The tile…it’s cool,” Ferro said, breathing raggedly like a drowning swimmer.

Hissing sounds of air.

“It’s okay, Mr. Ferro.” I followed his frenzied movements with my eyes. “I’m gonna step away and give you some room.” 

I flicked on the bathroom light as I moved away. As the room brightened, I saw Ferro’s face. It was sweaty and chalk white. His black hair flopped in wet patches across his forehead, and his eyes were narrow slits of blue. His body moved in spasms, halting and then starting again. 

Ferro tugged at his shirt collar as he drew in rapid breaths. Watching him, I felt the anxiety leave my body and the return of my clinical posture. This was a crisis, and I went into crisis mode. 

“I want you to listen to my voice as you take in a deep, slow breath.”

 Ferro lifted his shoulders, straightening himself from the stooped position against the wall. His knees bent several times as if unable to bear his own weight. Then, all at once, his body buckled toward the sink, but he anchored his two hands on the porcelain base to steady himself. As he drew in a series of deep breaths and huffed them coarsely through his mouth, his feet wobbled and slapped the tiled floor. 

Thumping movements

“You’re doing great,” I said. “You’re gonna be just fine.” 

Soon, color began to return to his face.

“I want you to slow your breathing even more. Like this.” I modeled the technique for him. 

Ferro followed my instructions and formed a slower breathing pattern, ending the hyperventilation that gripped him. Bit by bit, he raised himself to a solid standing posture. A self-conscious impulse took over as he saw his reflection in the mirror. Ferro slicked back his hair with his fingers, smoothed his clothing, and blotted the sweat from his face with a swipe of his arm. Then he smiled at me weakly.

The crisis was over.

As he found his way back from this acute attack, I realized there was no longer a need for me to be holding the panic alarm. I tucked it back into my pocket. I waited for what I thought was a good moment to ask my very first question.

“Can you move out of the bathroom?” 

Ferro nodded his head and walked toward the reception area. Upon moving into the waiting room, his eyes sought my approval to sit down.

“Yes, of course,” I said.

He slumped into the chair and tilted his head back against the wall. I moved a few seats away and waited for him to find a sense of balance. 

In the long stretch of silence that followed, I studied him in sidelong glances, trying not to be obvious. He was young, probably mid-to-late twenties, and his dark blue eyes glowed with intensity. He was dressed in a green and white Abercrombie & Fitch shirt. There was a moose logo on the left chest pocket. His slacks were washed in a dark tan hue, and he wore no socks with his deck shoes. On his wrist, a flash of gold—a watch with chunky links. He was vulnerable right now, but as the panic faded, I noticed he was muscular in build. And tall. Six feet or more. 

We remained quiet in the room for a while. I was always good with silence. It was a comfortable experience.

“I’m worried you won’t be able to help me,” Ferro said finally. His voice was dry, cracking slightly. 

“What makes you say that?” 

He was silent as he regarded me. I wasn’t sure if he was trying to find the right words or still seized by panic. The silence stretched as he continued looking at the ceiling, occasionally rubbing his hands over his eyes and face. He cleared his throat several times, fighting the dryness.

“Let me get you some water,” I said, getting up. I filled a paper cup with cold tap water in the bathroom. 

Ferro drank it down in one large gulp. He crumpled the cup and rolled the shapeless form between his hand and fingers.

“Been in therapy before. Nothing’s helped,” he spoke again. 

“But you’re here tonight. Something made you feel hopeful.”

Ferro said nothing but shifted restlessly in his seat. I gave him a few moments before leaning forward to talk again. Just then, he stopped moving altogether and turned his gaze toward me. It was a searching look, and at that instant, it was as if he was seeing me for the first time.

“I guess… I’m hoping you can help me.”

“How about we move into my office?” 

A beat later, Ferro nodded.

Wanting him to find a level of comfort, I avoided unnecessary words or actions as he made his way into the consultation room. He walked and sat in a nearby chair. He drew in a few deep breaths trying to get comfortable, but it felt like he could take flight at any moment—leaving the session altogether.  “I’m not exactly sure where to begin.” “Why don’t you tell me how long you’ve had these attacks?” It seemed a good starting point.

“About two years.”

My eyes widened. “A long time.”

“Yeah,” Ferro replied. 

“Any idea why they happen?”  

“It’s –uh—it’s complicated.”

“Complications are my specialty.”

Ferro laughed and sat back a little further in his chair.

“Tell me about your work with Dr. Karne,” I asked, giving him another place to start. Dr. Paula Karne was a well-regarded psychologist who practiced cognitive behavior therapy in Great Neck. 

“Saw her for a few months, y’know, trying to stop the anxiety.” 

“What kinds of things did you work on?”

“Changing how I think, replacing bad habits with better ones. Stuff like that.”

“I see.” 

Cognitive behavior therapy focuses on in-the-moment issues and how to change them to find greater well-being. Though I worked differently than Dr. Karne, my goal would be the same: to help the patient feel better. 

Ferro cleared his throat and spoke again. “I wasn’t always totally honest with her, though.”

“How do you mean?”

“Didn’t exactly tell her what was really bothering me. Thought I’d just go there and learn how to control things. That’s all I really wanted anyway.”

“To control the panic on your own,” I said, reframing his thoughts.

“Yeah. But I know I gotta be more open. That’s why I decided to try again.”

“Being honest is important in therapy.”

Silence came down like a curtain, and we lingered in its folds for a while.

“Why do you think it was hard to be more open with Dr. Karne?” I asked him.

“Well, she doesn’t really work like that.” 

“True,” I eased back in my seat. “She works just with the behaviors you have. She doesn’t get into the nitty gritty things like emotions, memories.”

Ferro nodded in agreement.

“Well, what’s honesty mean to you?” I asked when it was clear he wasn’t going to speak again.

“Showing all the cards, I guess. Talking about things I don’t wanna share.”

“And feeling things.” 

Ferro nodded. “Makes me feel weak.”

“How so?”

“I really don’t like needing other people.” 

“Dependency makes you feel weak?” 

“Yeah.”

“Have there been times in the past where needing others wasn’t easy?” This was a gentle probe to move him deeper into his thoughts. Ferro said nothing, shutting down by looking away. Sensing I might be moving too quickly, I shifted my approach. “We can talk about those kinds of things at a later time.”                               “It’s hard to just open up to someone you meet.” 

“I get that.”

Keeping track of time, I checked the clock on the end table where Ferro sat. The session was nearing its end. So much occurred and yet so little was done to obtain a formal clinical interview.  

“We have just a few more minutes. How about scheduling another appointment?” 

“Uh, okay,” he said, handing me the shapeless cup. 

I took it from him, wondering why he hadn’t placed it in the trashcan himself.

“How about seeing me on Wednesday?”

“Twice a week?”  

“Actually, I was thinking three times a week.” 

Ferro glanced out the window and then raised his eyes to mine. As he did this, he shrugged his shoulders. “All right.” “We’ll look at why you’re feeling anxiety, explore your early childhood, your connections to others.” Ferro nodded. “Do you know much about Psychoanalysis?” “A little. Dr. Karne talked about it.” “We’re going to explore your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, but in a deeper way.” “The unconscious.” “Yes,” I said, pleased he was familiar with the term. “These techniques will help us kick your anxiety to the curb.” “I’d like that.” “How does seven o’clock work for you?” Ferro nodded. I picked up a pen and filled in the Wednesday, June 7th slot. Taking an appointment card from the holder on my desk, I completed his name, the time, and the date. His eyes seemed glued to my every movement. “Here you go,” I said as I held out the card. “We have to stop.” “That’s it, then?”  “For now.” The arc of the session went from one extreme to the other. Lucas Ferro walked into my office at his worst and left seemingly in control. “See you Wednesday, Dr. Reese.” Ferro paused, looked at me, and extended his hand. Many classical analysts hold back from any form of touch in sessions. I was a modern analyst, and incidental touch wasn’t something taboo to me. “See you Wednesday,” I said and met his hand with my own. His grip was firm and tight.

Where did your inspiration come from for the book?

 “The Ninth Session” was inspired by the Duty to Warn ethics that mental health professionals must abide by. 

How do you think of ideas for books ? 

I’m attracted to situations where doing the right thing isn’t always easy. I guess those kinds of conflicts bring out the best or worst in people, and I find that fascinating. That being said, my stories come from things I’ve experienced in the past. Or stories I see on the news or read about that tug at my heart.

Did you always want to be an author?

 I know I always wanted to write, and did so from an early age. 

Do you have a favorite author ? 

 I just love Nelson DeMille. But I read many books from many different authors and genres. 


Are you anything like any of the characters in the book?

 I think a little bit of me is in every character in the book. 


How do you balance being a psychologist and a author?

 I work part time in my practice, teach part time as a professor and write part time as an author. Finding time for all is somewhat easy for me. I know I’m lucky in that regard.


How long did the book take you to write ?

It took about 6 years for me to write this novel. And about 2 years to find a publishing house. 

Witches Protection Program Blog Tour-1st October 2019

About the Author 

Michael Okon is an award-winning and best-selling author of multiple genres including paranormal, thriller, horror, action/adventure and self-help. He graduated from Long Island University with a degree in English, and then later received his MBA in business and finance. Coming from a family of writers, he has storytelling in his DNA. Michael has been writing from as far back as he can remember, his inspiration being his love for films and their impact on his life. From the time he saw The Goonies, he was hooked on the idea of entertaining people through unforgettable characters. 

Michael is a lifelong movie buff, a music playlist aficionado, and a sucker for self-help books. He lives on the North Shore of Long Island with his wife and children.

About the Book: 

Title: WITCHES PROTECTION PROGRAM Author: Michael Okon Publisher: WordFire Press Pages: 200 Genre: Fantasy/Urban Fantasy 

BOOK BLURB: 

Wes Rockville, a disgraced law-enforcement agent, gets one last chance to prove himself and save his career when he’s reassigned to a 232-year-old secret government organization. The Witches Protection Program.

His first assignment: uncover a billion-dollar cosmetics company’s diabolical plan to use witchcraft for global domination, while protecting its heiress Morgan Pendragon from her aunt’s evil deeds. Reluctantly paired with veteran witch protector, Alastair Verne, Wes must learn to believe in witches…and believe in himself. Filled with adventure and suspense, Michael Okon creates a rousing, tongue-in-cheek alternate reality where witches cast spells and wreak havoc in modern-day New York City. 

Praise: 

“Witches Protection Program is a great summer choice, ideal for beach or poolside reading, and with elements of romance, action, crime, and fantasy, there’s a little something for everyone to enjoy.”—Foreword Reviews 

“…mixes predictable elements–corporate intrigue, sexy witches, cat familiars, car chases, family secrets, and steampunk weaponry–into an enjoyable story.’—Publisher’s Weekly “Cleverly offbeat, often cheeky, and loads of fun.”—Kirkus 

“WITCHES PROTECTION PROGRAM is a fun and quick read, and the out-of-the-norm narrative choices make the novel feel like something wonderfully subversive.” – IndieReader “Witches Protection Program is a unique gem, one that’s fast-paced with twists, action, and fun characters.” – Reviewed by Liz Konkel for Readers’ Favorite, Five Star Review “Witches Protection Program will hook you if not for the action, then the romance and if not for the romance, then the sheer humor, what with its funny dialogue.” – Liezl Ruiz, NetGalley Reviewer

★★★★★ORDER YOUR COPY★★★★★

Amazon → https://tinyurl.com/y6a7lq9m

Barnes & Noble → https://tinyurl.com/yy34sbxm 

Book Excerpt: 

The narrator filled in more information. “It wasn’t until this land became my land that the government decided to create an organization to protect women at risk. The Davina Doctrine went against everything that the Willas stood for. Even though they ran the risk of persecution, the Davinas chose to work with law enforcement to expose the evil deeds of the rival sisterhood. President George Washington established secret legislation under Title VI of the Control Act of 1792. The law was enacted to protect the good witches that exposed the evil deeds of their sisterhood.” 

The screen went dark. There was only a chair in the center of a dimly lit stage. A single spotlight focused on the top of the blond actress’s head. Wes was right; it was the actress he’d suspected. She had a hit sitcom and two Emmys, and there was some recent Oscar talk about her last movie. 

“Yes. There are witches. Living among us. They are women who believe in using their power to protect love and life. And then there are some who use their powers for all the wrong reasons.” 

The camera came to rest on her beautiful face. She winked saucily as she placed a triangular witch’s hat on her head. “Welcome to the WitchesProtection Program.” 

Alastair smiled broadly. “I love that part.” 

“That was Jennifer Anis—”

Mariana London Soap- Product Review

I was recently gifted 3 soaps from Mariana London Soap,as soon as these arrived through the door I could smell them through the packaging and they smelt amazing, I couldn’t decide which one to use first. The soaps I received were:

  • Lavender and May Chang Soap
  • Lemongrass and Peppermint Soap
  • Rose Geranium and Bergamot Soap

The soaps start off from £2.99 and 10p from every bar of soap or bottle of bath oil sold goes to the Streets of London Charity. These soaps would make lovely gifts for people and I’m even thinking about buying some as stocking fillers as they come gift wrapped.

The soaps contain only natural ingredients, no palm oil and plastic-free packaging, there’s nothing artificial in these soaps, just pure natural ingredients (olive oil, coconut oil and shea butter) and essential oils. It’s all completely handmade and hand wrapped.

Mariana London also sell bath oils and these are on my list to purchase, I hope these are as good as the soaps so I look forward to trying these out in the near future. All products can be purchased from https://mariana-london.ecwid.com, Mariana London soap can also be followed on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marianalondonsoap/ and also on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/marianalondonsoap/.

Tiger Lilly Chocolates-Product Review


This week I was gifted these beautiful chocolates and bonbons from Tiger Lilly Chocolates. Tiger Lilly sell artisan handmade bonbons and sweet treats. They are based in Thirsk which is quite local to me with me living in Middlesbrough/Redcar however they also offer delivery nationwide.

All Bonbons are sold in boxes of 6,12,18 & 24 and are supplied in boxes available with a clear or closed lid.They currently sell 12 different Chocolate Bonbons flavours and they can be mixed
and matched for all box sizes. I was sent a box with mixed flavours. The flavours include:

1.Strawberry Pate de Fruit & Dark Chocolate Mint Ganache in a decorative Dark Chocolate Shell

2. Coconut, Lime & Dark Rum Ganache in a decorative Milk Chocolate Shell

3. Sea Salt Caramel & Milk Chocolate Ganache in White Chocolate Shell

4. Parma Violet Gin & White Chocolate Ganache in Purple Chocolate Shell

5.Pistachio & Dark Chocolate Ganache in Milk Chocolate Shell

6. Raspberry & Rose Water Pate de Fruit in Milk Chocolate Shell

7. White Chocolate Lemon & Lemon Thyme Sherbet Ganaches in Dark Chocolate Shell

8.Passionfruit & Vodka White Chocolate Ganache in Dark Chocolate Shell

9. Mango & Stem Ginger Ganache in Caramelised White Chocolate Shell

10. Caramelised White Chocolate Ganache & Macadamia Praline In Dark Chocolate Shell10.

11. Apple Pate de Fruit & Milk Chocolate Cinnamon Ganache In White Chocolate Shell

12. Blackberry & Vanilla White Chocolate Ganache & Hazelnut Feuilletine In White

I received one of each flavour in a box, I didn’t know which one to try first as they all sounded so nice and looked equally as nice. I love the colours used to create the chocolates and with them coming in a gift box they would make lovely gifts for people. I will be buying these in future for birthday presents or even Christmas presents. My favourite flavour was the Parma Violet Gin & White Chocolate Ganache in Purple Chocolate Shell. This is because I’m a huge gin lover and love trying out all the new flavours. A box of 6 bonbons retails at £7.65, a box of 12 £11.05, a box of 18 £17.00 and a box of 24 retails at £20.40.

I also received a bag of Milk Chocolate Aero Pieces coated in Belgian Milk, Dark & White Chocolate. These were so good I practically ate the bag in one whole sitting. Im a fan of bubbly chocolate anyways as It just melts in your mouth, again these would make lovely presents as come in a clear bag with a ribbon tied around the top which gives them the finishing touch.

These chocolates are sold by weight, 175g will cost you £2.97, 250g £4.25, 325g £5.31 and 400g £5.95. These would make perfect stocking fillers.

All chocolates can be purchased from https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/Tigerlillychocolates

And can be contacted via: https://www.facebook.com/tigerlillychocolate/

https://www.instagram.com/tigerlillychocolates/

Jeannie Daly-Gunter’s The Love Map Book Blast -Sept 17 2019



I have been given the opportunity to host the Love Map Book Blast on my blog from Pump up your book.

About the Author

Jeannie Daly-Gunter, MA is an author, speaker, relationship coach, seminar leader and Co-Founder of The Transformative Loving® Institute. She has facilitated personal and professional development programs for over 25 years. Jeannie and her husband Mark have committed to walking the path of their relationship as a personal and spiritual growth path. Their passion is to support other couples on that path, and help them to create the extraordinary relationship they really want. They combine various modalities in the healing arts, rites of passage, and psychology, to create a powerful container for couples to do their healing work together. Jeannie and Mark make their home near the beautiful Rocky Mountains of Boulder, Colorado.

About the Book:

Title: THE LOVE MAP: REIGNITE, RECONNECT AND REPAIR YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Author: Jeannie Daly-Gunter
Publisher: Phoenix Rising Press
Pages: 232
Genre: Self-Help
Pick up your copy at https://www.amazon.com/dp/1733905588.

BOOK BLURB:

If you aren’t growing together in your relationship, you are likely growing apart. The Love Map: Reignite, Reconnect and Repair Your Relationship, gives couples a blueprint to help navigate the inevitable ups and downs of love. This book is a practical guide, an engaging story, and a workbook. Unlike many of the psychological relationship books on the market today, The Love Map is a compelling ‘teaching story’. This story follows the marriage of the main characters, Taylor and Jaymie, as they work through an ongoing conflict that has been weighing them down for a year. Sophia, Taylor and Jaymie’s marriage counselor, guides the couple through ten sessions of relationship lessons, that ultimately supports the couple in working through their conflict. Along the way, the reader is encouraged to do the relationship exercises at the end of each chapter as “home play” along with Taylor and Jaymie. This comprehensive ‘self-help story’ is endearing, motivating and practical all at once. In addition, there are links to workbook pages and videos to support couples in integrating the lessons in the book. The Love Map has been recommended by therapists and those in the personal growth industry as a powerful resource for couples wanting to deepen their connection and create a more conscious and meaningful relationship.

Book Excerpt:

Can You Please Just Listen?!

Sophia waited until they were settled on the couch before she continued. “During our first session, I like to take some time for us to get to know each other. I know this is a big deal for you to reach out for support, and I’m honored that you have chosen to work with me. Did you watch the intro videos, and do you have any questions for me before we dive in?” 

Taylor squirmed a bit. “Well, I’m wondering how long this is going to take and if it’s really going to work.” 

Jaymie shot him a did-you-have-to-say-that look?

Sophia smiled. “That’s a fair question. Based on my experience, I recommend starting with ten sessions. That gives us a chance to create a really strong foundation of understanding and essentials for helping you communicate better, learn how to deal with conflicts over time, and experience what it’s like to work through some issues. Some couples need more sessions than that to start with, and it’s something we can check in around along the way. You can also stop at any time if you feel like this isn’t for you. Some couples prefer to meet in a long-weekend intensive and some couples like to pace this out over time.”

“That makes sense,” said Jaymie, wanting to get off to a smoother start. “I like having homework between sessions, so doing this over time makes sense to me. You know, I would love just a bit more clarity on the differences between coaching and therapy, just so we know what to expect.” 

“Sure,” said Sophia. “I know we talked a bit about this on the phone, but basically I combine a lot of approaches based on what you need. In a nutshell, coaching looks more toward what you want to create in the future, while counseling or therapy excavates some of the underlying emotional undercurrents of your present conflicts. Although a lot of couples get stuck in conflict, I think it’s equally important to keep putting proactive energy into our relationships. There is a saying I heard once that, ‘If you’re not growing, you’re dying.’ I believe that is really true in love. I’d say that most couples let their relationship flat-line at some point. They’re too busy or too stressed out dealing with work and family to tend to their love. I like to think of my work as a ‘jump-start’ to help couples reinvigorate their love again.” 

“I like that,” said Jaymie. “I think you’re right, sometimes we do get too busy with other things we think are more important than our relationship. That’s weird isn’t it?”

“Unfortunately,” said Sophia, “I see it all the time. There are three main reasons couples come to see me. They need to repair a conflict or betrayal, they feel emotionally disconnected and they are growing apart, or they want to breathe love back into their relationships. Successful couples are always doing ongoing work to repair, reconnect, and reignite their love. 

After this introduction, Taylor and Jaymie took turns explaining their perspectives on their main conflict and how they had been arguing about the same thing for a year. Taylor began to warm up to Sophia and feel more engaged in the process. 

“We love each other and want to work through this; we just aren’t sure how,” concluded Taylor. 

Jaymie sighed, “Yeah, we just aren’t getting anywhere with resolving this and it’s turned into a yelling match at times.”

WEBSITE & SOCIAL LINKS:

Website:  http://www.transformativeloving.com/

Twitter:  https://twitter.com/TransformtoLove

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/couplesworkshops/

Square meal

Square Meal allows you to find the best local restaurants in your area and I love the fact I have found restaurants in my area that I didn’t even know existed and had never heard of before using the website. If I type in Middlesbrough which is my nearest town,101 restaurants appear in the search results which is more results than I expected to appear.So it has a wide range of restaurants for me to try out in the future. In the search results in shows the price range, the type of cuisine ,how many miles away the restaurant is and the location and postcode which is really handy when planning on where to eat out.

As the image above shows you can narrow the results down by award, distance and price which is something I like to do especially when on a budget. This makes it easier to help you choose somewhere to book as it gives you all the options based on what your looking for. I liked reading the little descriptions underneath the restaurants name because this gives you a feel for the restaurant before you go and so you know what the atmosphere is going to be like.

The booking system is so easy to use and allows you to select a party size, the date and time you want the table for and also collect 100 reward points.Once you have over 500 points you can redeem fabulous Rewards, from meals in top restaurants to bottles of fizz, high-end beauty products and more.I cannot wait to see the rewards that they offer and to cash in my points.

I love booking tables in advance as sometimes you go to a restaurant and end up having to wait and wait for a table and by booking a table the restaurant can have it ready for you arriving so you don’t have to hang about and you can start your night off straight away.

The site has just had a revamp which means it’s easier to use and easy to navigate around.The website looks very clean and very fresh .It is easy to find the information you are looking for really quickly and conveniently without having to struggle and search around for ages.

It is not just restaurants it allows you to search for.You are also able to search for lots of different party venues, meeting venues, eateries, wedding venues etc meaning you only need to go to one website. This will be handy with Christmas coming up as people will be starting to plan Christmas parties and at least they will be able to check the venues availability by using the websites and will be able to get a venue within their price range.

I have actually bookmarked this website in my phone as i’m always looking for new places to visit.I will certainly be using this website in the future and will also be telling my friends and family about the website as we are all big foodies and love eating out and trying new places.

Banhoek Chilli Oil – Product Review

I have recently been given the opportunity to try and review Banhoek Chilli oil. I use a lot of oil whilst cooking so I took the opportunity to try the oil out.

Banhoek Chilli oil started out as a home experiment in Ken Kinsey Quick’s family home and the product was launched in early 2018. Ken teamed up with a former colleague Ed Morse to launch Banhoek Chilli Oil (UK) Ltd as sole importer and distributor in the UK in early 2019. The oil can be purchased from Amazon and also through http://www.thefoodmarket.com.

The oil is cholesterol free and is low in saturated fats and is high in omega 3 and omega 6. Meaning the oil is a healthier alternative to some oils which is great for me as im trying to eat a little bit healthier.

The oil can be used as a drizzle over steaks before they are put under the grill, with fish, eggs,seafood,as a dressing with pasta and with your favourite pizza. However I use it to try my mince in when making a Spaghetti Bolognese to give the dish that little bit of a kick.

When the bottles that I have been gifted run out I will certainly think about buying this product again. The oil retails at £8.50 on Amazon or for an additional £1 you can buy a bottle that is wrapped which would make the perfect gift for someone who loves chilli or who loves experimenting whilst cooking.

Replen Hair- Rice Water product review

I was recently gifted this product from Replen Hair to try out which was great for me as I have dry, damaged hair and rice water is meant to unlock your hair growth potential, replenish the moisture, strength and shine to your hair and I wanted my hair to look and feel good again. Rice water contains Inositol which is a carbohydrate, this is the part that repairs the damaged hair.

The Rice Water can be used in two different ways:

  1. As a pre shampoo – to use it this way section the hair into manageable parts. Then apply to dry or wet hair and coat the hair thoroughly in the rice water then leave in for 10-20 mins and rinse out before shampooing the hair.
  2. Use as a leave in spray (This is the method I have been using.) – Spray the Rice Water into clean wet hair and detangle the hair as required using your fingers.

The spray smells to me like a mint/teatree smell this can only really be smelt while spraying onto the hair so the smell doesn’t last very long which is what you want when your going out to work.

Replen Hair can be found on Instagram and can be purchased on Amazon for £5.99 per bottle for a 260ml bottle.

https://www.instagram.com/replenhairltd/

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07X9P3FQ8/ref=cm_sw_r_cp_apa_i_12vBDb1CZ5NEQ

After using the product my hair does feel healthier than normal so I would definitely recommend giving this a try if you feel like your hair is damaged and could do with a bit of life putting back into it.

A Shot In The Dark- Blog Tour (2nd September)

I recently had the opportunity to be part of the publicity tour for the release of A Shot in the Dark so I grabbed the opportunity this is something I wouldn’t normally do but I really enjoyed being part of this . The book can be purchased from http://www.reddogpress.co.uk/shop or from Amazon . The book is written by Neil Richards and Matthew Costello.

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About the Authors 

Co-authors Neil Richards (based in the UK) and Matthew Costello (based in the US), have been writing together since the mid-90s, creating innovative television, games and best-selling books. Together, they have worked on major projects for the BBC, PBS, Disney Channel, Sony, ABC, Eidos, and Nintendo to name but a few. 

Their transatlantic collaboration led to the globally best-selling mystery series, Cherringham, which has also been a top-seller as audiobooks read by Neil Dudgeon. 

Mydworth Mysteries is their brand new series, set in 1929 Sussex, England, which takes readers back to a world where solving crimes was more difficult — but also sometimes a lot more fun.

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Below is the books blurb. 

Sussex, England, 1929. Mydworth is a sleepy English market town just 50 miles from London. But things are about to liven up there considerably, when young Sir Harry Mortimer returns home from his government posting in Cairo, with his unconventional American wife – Kat Reilly. No sooner have the two arrived, when a jewel robbery occurs at Harry’s aunt’s home – Mydworth Manor – ending in one of the thieves being shot…and killed. The local police are baffled by the case. But Harry and Kat have an edge in the hunt for the second thief: not only do they have certain useful “skills” they’ve both picked up in service of King, President and Country, they also have access to parts of English high society that your average bobby can’t reach. Because this Shot in the Dark…could have come from anywhere.

I have also been provided an abstract from the book.

PROLOGUE SUSSEX, ENGLAND, 1929.

LADY LAVINIA FITZHENRY turned the page of the novel she was reading – the latest from the American, Hemingway. Always fun to read a book written by someone you’ve met – and even shared more than a few drinks with. Sitting up in bed – Mydworth Manor so peaceful, the staff below all quiet – to read like this was such a pleasure. She had brought a glass of port with her to bed – now sadly gone – and certainly it was late enough to think about turning the light off. Plenty to do in the busy days ahead, the house soon to be filled with weekend guests down from London. Gossip. Music. Cocktails every evening before dinner. What fun! She placed the book on her bedside table and put the light out. The bedroom now in darkness. She started to drift off, plans running through her mind. But then… A noise. She opened her eyes. Another sound: a rattle. Not close, clearly somewhere down the wide hallway. A sound that, well, perhaps a door or a window might make in response to a stiff breeze. Except this was a perfectly still night. Barely a breeze. There it was again. The rattle louder. Lavinia had never been one to sit and wait. Her response to fear throughout her entire life had remained exactly the same. If you are afraid of something, you face it. She put the light on, and, in one quick move, slid out from under the covers, slipped on her dressing gown, and headed out onto the landing.

LAVINIA STOOD motionless outside her bedroom, listening. The sounds seemed to have stopped. Slowly she moved along the dark hallway, ears straining. Past the grand staircase that led down to the entrance, where she saw the glow of the entryway light that was kept on all evening. Warm, yellow, reassuring. Down the hallway, until she came to the row of bedrooms that would house all her guests in just a few days. She stopped. There was nothing but quiet. Clearly time to go back to bed, she thought. She turned. There was a crack. The sharp, brittle sound of something snapping in the room directly to her right. Door shut. Secure – as it should be. These rooms were cleaned and prepared days ago. Lavinia grabbed the doorknob – cold to the touch. A twist, an audible click, the door opened – and she slowly entered the dark room. With her eyes already adjusted to the dark, she didn’t need light to see that all was in order here. The door that led into the dressing room stood half open. She felt – the barest sense of it – a cold draught coming from the room. A chill that shouldn’t be there. Taking a deep breath, she grasped the door handle, pulled the door wide – and entered the room, to see… the window wide open. She hurried over, ready to slam it shut, and end this late-night adventure. As she started to pull the window closed, her eyes were drawn for a second to the lawn as the moon momentarily found a gap in the clouds. And she stopped. Frozen. A figure was walking slowly away from the house towards the woods. As she watched, the figure stopped. Turned. Looked up at her… Lavinia’s heart, at peace only seconds ago, now pounded. She backed away from the window, thoughts racing, searching for explanations that did not come. She took a deep breath – and then stepped back to the window again, eyes straining. But the figure had gone. As if it had never been there. And now, as she peered into the darkness, a feeling of foreboding came over her. A feeling that this weekend wasn’t going to bring fun at all…

1. AN ENGLISH HOMECOMING

KAT REILLY WATCHED her husband Harry shield his eyes from the morning sun as he studied the unloading process of the cross-channel ferry at Newhaven dock. She knew him well enough to see that he was concerned. The Pride of Sussex had berthed an hour late, and, in the frenzied hurry to turn the ship around, Kat had already seen one precious cargo slip from its net and smash on the quayside. While the steamer belched smoke into the sky, hordes of trucks, horses and carts, and hand-barrows swarmed around the dock-side, as passengers called instructions, and customs men tried to intervene. So much for all the English politeness and decorum she’d been expecting to see on this, her first trip to Britain! Though, in truth, Sir Harry Mortimer seemed as ever to typify the calm, unruffled English gentleman. Tall, slim, his black hair longer than she’d ever known it, jacket slung nonchalantly over one shoulder, white cotton shirt sporting a dashing red tie. All he needed was a tennis racquet to complete the look. Or should that be – a cricket bat? He turned back to her. “Hmm… just going to have a quick word with those chaps over there. Make sure they, er…” She grinned at that. “And how will that go?” Harry – with one of his great smiles – nodded. “You think they won’t welcome my advice?” “With open arms, I’m sure. That or clenched fists.” “That is my car they’re about to drop on the quay.” “Your car?” “Ah, right. Sorry – old habits. I mean our car. Thing is, she may not be a Bugatti, but that Alvis is damned precious to me.” “Good luck. Back in New York nobody argues with the longshoremen.” “Well, I fancy we’re a tad more civilised over here.” “Civilised? Nine o’clock and I’m still waiting for that coffee you promised.” “How about we stop in at a local hostelry en route and celebrate my return to the motherland, and your first visit, with a slap-up breakfast?” “Slap-up?” “Forgot you don’t quite speak the lingo yet. Means ‘large’. The works!” “Sounds delicious.” He grinned, and she watched him walk over to a man on the dock who was dressed in blue overalls, cap on his head. From his stance, hands on hips, the man looked as if he might be the foreman – or whatever they called the guy in charge over here. She saw Harry gesture to where, only now, their car – that beautiful and so-sleek example of English hardware – was starting to rise out of the ship’s hold, swinging perilously on ropes and chains. The man in the cap nodded. No smiles there. But she guessed Harry was doing something she had seen him do so often. A few words here and there, and suddenly people wanted to help him. Doubtful he introduced himself as ‘Sir’, though Kat wondered whether, with the dock workers, any of that ‘Lord and Lady’ stuff would carry much weight. Harry walked back. “All tickety-boo. Er, I mean, sorted. Just explained to him what was hiding under those tarps. Asked if they had ever handled a car like that.” “And?” “Seems he rather prefers a Bentley. Rolls Royce at a push. Though he did say if I was offering him a drive, he’d happily take it for a spin.” “Funny guy, hmm?” “Salt of the earth.” “Well, me – I’d just slip him some money.” “Oh, see, there you go! That would never work here. An upstanding professional like that? He’d take it as a proper insult.” Kat doubted that. Ten years posted to American embassies from Istanbul to Tokyo had taught her one thing – a handful of dollars never failed to make the world run more smoothly. She turned to see the Alvis roadster steadily being lowered. Slowly, she was glad to note. And – now – nothing to be alarmed about. She turned back to Harry, watching their steamer trunks being off-loaded, to be transported to Mydworth by truck. Lorry – not truck, she thought. And then they would drive to their new home. “New”, at least for Kat, but not to Harry. Mydworth: the small town where he grew up; a world he knew – but had been away from for so long. Suddenly Harry wasn’t checking the unloading. “Hmm,” he grunted. “What?” she said, as he turned to look over to where the cars and taxis pulled up to pick up passengers. Sitting there, a sleek sedan. Not a cab, but a very serious looking vehicle. And stepping out of it, now looking this way, a man crisply dressed in what looked like a chauffeur’s uniform. “Something wrong?” she said to Harry. “Don’t know. But I think we’re about to find out.” The driver held a white envelope in his hands. He walked over directly – even urgently – to where she and Harry stood.

HARRY ALWAYS PRIDED himself on having extremely good instincts. They’d served him well back in ’18 in the skies over Belgium. Also, in his various postings abroad for the Foreign Office. A few times they’d helped him avoid getting hurt. Once even killed. His every instinct told him that the envelope the man carried was unlikely to be good news. “Sir Harry Mortimer?” Less a question than a confirmation. Harry gave a quick nod back. He felt Kat looking at this scene as well. He guessed she had to be thinking: Well, what is this about? The chauffeur presented the envelope to Harry. “Urgent from Whitehall, sir. I’m to wait.” Harry took the envelope, giving Kat a half grin. “Wait? For what?” He opened the tucked but unsealed envelope and removed a single piece of paper. He recognised the crest on the paper, the address. The message pithily brief, but also direct. “Harry… what is it?” A bit of alarm in her voice there, he noted. As they had grown closer to docking at Newhaven, Harry had reassured her about their new life in his homeland. “No more running around for me,” he’d said. “Nice quiet office job in town, driving a desk a couple of days a week, lunch at the club, home by five, no harum-scarum, hmm?” To which she had said: “Doubt that.” He took a deep breath, even as he started to wonder if there was any getting around what this letter wanted him to do. No solution appeared as he turned to face Kat directly.

KAT COULD SEE from Harry’s eyes that he wasn’t happy. Took only seconds to read the words in the letter, but – whatever the message – her husband… not pleased. “Urgent meeting. Bit of a flap on, and it seems they want me to attend.” “Really? When?” she asked. Though – with the chauffeur and limo standing by – she could figure out the answer to that one. “Right now, apparently,” he waved the offending letter. “Uses the word ‘crisis’ here. Chaps in the office usually show some restraint when referring to such things, so…” “Now?” She glanced back just as their Alvis touched down on the dock. Two men began removing the heavy tarps that had been used to protect it during its journey. A hint of the car’s racing green colour caught the sunlight. “We’re supposed to drive to our new house together, yes? Trucks bringing everything else right behind us.” “I am still technically, um – you know – a servant of His Majesty’s Government.” “Yes, and due to report in a few weeks, and even then, not a full-time position.” Harry’s eyes shifted right. His beleaguered look made Kat almost withdraw her protest. Almost. “Tell this charming man here that you and I have things to do. You can see them tomorrow.” And then Harry did something that always cut through the slightest disagreement they had. He took a step towards her. Bit of a smile back, not full on, but so warm – just like the night they met at that New Year’s Eve reception in the British Embassy in Cairo. He put a hand on her shoulder. And for that moment, there was just the two of them on that dock alone. “I know. But if it was you? Back in New York? Some chap from the State Department?” He paused, hand still on her shoulder – and Kat knew how this had to play out. “What would you do? What could you do?” And so slowly – only now rewarding him with a smile of her own – she patted his hand on her shoulder. “Harry. It’s okay. I understand. Duty calls.” “Exactly. King and country. Ours not to reason why. And don’t worry, we’ll take this fellow’s car into town, and I’ll get Alfie to drive us back here as soon as the meeting is done with.” Alfie – someone else from Harry’s life she hadn’t met yet. His – what did they call them? – “batman” during the war. Someone who, Harry said, was fiercely loyal, and would do absolutely anything for him, even arranging things for what was going to be their London pied-à-terre. “Few hours at the most, then straight back here. Pick up our car, and off we go, crisis over with a bit of luck.” That was the plan offered by Harry. But Kat knew it never was her style to sit around waiting, killing time. Not when there were things to be done. “No,” she said, warm smile still on her face. “I have another idea.” Harry’s turn to look surprised. “You do?” And Kat nodded.

I actually cannot wait to read the rest of the book this is one I would love to purchase in the future.

Marianne’s Plate

I was recently gifted this plate by Marianne’s Plate on instagram (https://www.instagram.com/mariannesplate/) to write/review on my blog . I’m always looking on ways to eat healthier, lose weight and eat the correct portion sizes as I pile my plate high at times as I think that there isn’t enough food on my plate and ill still be hungry afterwards so I took the opportunity

The plate is split into measured sections to help control your portion sizes. This will help you make simple lifestyle changes that will make your diet healthier and help you lose weight. Included with my plate was a handy little guide to help using your plate a rewarding experience when used in conjunction with a healthy diet.

1/2 of the plate is for salad/vegetables. This section of the plate has really helped me as I don’t think I get enough salad/vegetables into my diet and this was something I was looking to increase.

1/4 of the plate is for poultry, meat or fish. Aim for 2 portions of fish per week. Before using this plate and guide I was lucky if I would eat one portion of fish per week so this has really helped.

1/4 of the plate is for pasta, rice or potatoes. Aim for whole grains as a healthier option. Also remember bread will count as one of your carbohydrates when using the plate and is not an addition to your meal. This has helped me a lot as I eat a lot of bread in my diet and I always add bread to my meals for instance if I am having a spag Bol I will have the spaghetti and also have garlic bread, however when using the plate I should only have the spaghetti or the garlic bread.

I look forward to continuing to use this plate and can’t wait to see if I end up losing any weight with it. I have only been using this plate a week but can already see changes to my diet by using it, it really makes you think about what you are eating and your portion sizes. These plates can be purchased from: https://www.mariannesplate.com and currently come in 3 different designs. They are currently priced at £8.45 – Melamine plate and £11.45 – China plate. I like that the one I have been gifted has examples of names and foods that belong in that section this has allowed me to try new foods and made me want to try new foods.

The guide included was really useful and gives handy little tips on how to maintain a healthy lifestyle. There isn’t much reading which I really like and you can quickly find the information you are looking for.

Here are some final pictures of the plate I have taken.

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